Until recent generations divorce was a rare thing. Then our society changed and we developed a need to be “happy.” This changed from the previous generations, when the only things that couple were expected from marriage was to satisfied their surviving needs and some level of security for the family. Happiness was not a part of the marriage contract. But today, we all want to be happy.
Couples today are looking for a new kind of relationship. A relationship with the connections on many levels, such as spiritual, physical, emotional and psychological as well as material ones.
This is the phenomenon of the New Age Era, when we are entering into relationships richer than any previous generation.
“This may be the start of the “we” generation, a generation that desires an end to the battle of the sexes and the beginning of a new form of relationship in which partners work together as a team to satisfy needs, uplift one another, and journey together toward personal growth and sexual and spiritual fulfillment.” ( Charles and Caroline Muir – Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving)
The need for happiness and fulfillment sounds very simple and innocent, but it’s the primary reason for failed relationships today. In order to get to the fulfillment, we need to be ready to learn a lot and to work toward our goals. Fulfillment is conscious and unlimited and can only be achieved in connection with the partner.
“Love and intimacy are at the root of what makes us sick and what makes us well, what causes sadness and what brings happiness, what makes us suffer and what leads to healing. If a new drug had the same impact, virtually every doctor in the country would be recommending it for their patients.” Dr. Dean Ornish 8
We have a powerful need and desire for a successful life partnership. We’re just not sure how to create and keep this kind of loving partnership. Most of us did not receive formal instructions on how to love, how to build the relationship, how to get to the state of Consciousness and to be Enlightened.
On our website and in our Center we will bring to you many practices, educational materials and seminars on the subject of fulfilling and happy relationships.
Most people envision an idyllic intimate relationship based upon common interests, open communication, mutual development, and passion.
To help you reduce conflicts and enhance the flow of love in your life, here is a few main principles of the relationships:
1. Any loving relationships are based on equality.
Love is the unity that of two equal souls.
2. In relationships, choose being happy over being right.
Neither winning nor losing translates into love. Just look for common grounds and find compromise.
3. Take care and invest in your loving relationships.
You need to invest time, attention, warmth and enjoyment in to your relationship, to demonstrate your life priorities.
4. Let the past to past.
Carrying the past into the present does not helps us get our needs met. When dealing with current situations, do not bring up past issues. And make it your commitment to your relationship.
5. Be prepared to communicate your expectations.
To create strong connection with your partner, you need consciously and clearly identify and communicate your expectations, as well as be ready to hear what the other person requires and being willing to negotiate to find common ground.
These are just a few principals for building happy and fulfilling relationship. There are much more to learn and explore for Enlightened Relationships. Keep looking for right answers for you and use your knowledge wisely. Keep learning and you will find the answers and the ways to happiness and fulfillment.
Listen to the wisdom of your heart and sole, and it will guide you into higher expressions of love!